How to win friends and influence people:- Dale Carnegie

Are you an introvert? Are you unable to tell someone and convince him for the thing you wanted to done by him? Does anyone can trick you easily and you think yourself like a dumb person? If yes, then no worries, this book summary will be very very useful for you if you understand it.

                                           Communication is very very useful for everything, it doesn't matters that you're in business or not or you are an interviewer or not. Communication is always needed by people, no matters how modern we became we still have to talk to people to get our work done or to share something with them.
                                       So, learn and enjoy the full summary of the book How to win friends and influence people.

1)  Don't criticise any person if he is wrong and never do this kind of mistakes in front of people to him. It totally destructs the communication and criticism also gives your opponent a chance to justify himself and to condemn us in return.

                                       Like an animal learns more faster when he was rewarded for his good work instead of beaten for a wrong with, people are also same they never take criticism, so try to tell your point calmly to the person and if possible then do it only between you two.

 
2)  The one thing which is as desirable as food and water"the craving to get appreciated"or"the feeling of importance" . People go insane to find their feeling of importance as we see nowadays people buy I phone coz it gives them a superior feeling among their friends, and suppose if you give them that feeling of importance then they're never gonna forgot you for their lifetime.
                                     Give honest and sincere appreciation to people and a very good way to do is to use their names in your favor. It is simple but very effective. Telling people's name sounds most beautiful in any language and people also like to hear their names like in the survey when called to 500 people the most heard word was"I" which was over 3900 times.it is a very good way to make a person feel important.

 
3)  Becoming genuinely interested in people will make much more friends of yours than in two years. Take interest in other people and then they start taking interest on you, 

                          And a very good way to do is that you can give people what they wanted and show them how to get it, feed worms to fishes and they will come to you, they don't come if you get them what you wanted. Arouse in the person an eager want to talk.

 
4)  You can make a very good first impression on people by only putting a little smile on your face. Remember the person you loved, you found that the image comes in your mind of that person always comes with a smile and also the person seems to be very attractive to you. 

Ancient Chinese said " a person without a smile must not open a shop". Only a little smile can make you someone's favorite person.

 
5)   The fact here is very true that we got 2 eyes and 1 mouth so that we speak less and listen more. It took years for many people to find a person who becomes interested in them and just listen them and spouse is they find you since you did the same thing we are discussing then I'm pretty sure that the person never want to leave you.
                                                        Become interested in people and encourage others more to talk about themselves. Talk in terms of their interest.

6)  people always like to get compliment from anyone, many people don't show it that they're affected by your compliment in public but they get a very good feeling inside of them. Be great in your approbation and lavish in your praise and do it sincerely, if you like something in other person then honestly give a very good compliment to them.
                                                                   Praise people on the thing in which they are good or are interested in and use little phrases like"thank you","I'm sorry to trouble you",etc. Which shows that you're respecting the other person.

 
7)  if you argue with people then indirectly you're showing him inferior in front of you, and this is a very very toxic thing people do. Buddha once said"Hatred is never ended by hated but by love".
                                 The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. If possible then try to delay the fight and agree on the points on which you agree with the other person, thank him for giving his energy and time in the thing you both are interested in, promise your opponent to think over their ideas and thoughts.

 
8)  Begin any talk in a friendly way, a drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall, sometimes your friendly approach can make your opponent to change their thoughts.                                                           
                 If your wrong either partially of fully then admit you fault emphatically and quickly, say about yourself all the bad thing your opponent is thinking or going to say. There's a very little chance that the person will forgive you.

 
9)  don't begin any topic in talking with people in which you differ, begin by emphasising the topics in which you agree.get the other person saying"yes, yes" and keep your opponent from saying no.

 
10) talk to people with an open mind and try to see their point of view,give sympathy to people whenever needed,if you're at a meeting or in public and you want to take attention of people towards your idea then try to dramatise it like a lover did when he gives rose by sitting on his knees.

11) if you want that a person must take a little attention to his mistake then firstly begin by praising him because it is easier to listen something rude after hearing our own praise and also try not to use word "but" while criticising other person ideas you can use the word "and" and call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.

 
12) while criticising someone for their mistake, firstly,try to figure out your mistake like that and admit it in front of that person. This thing forces the other person to improve himself and never do that kind of mistake again. 

13) if you want some work to be done by other person then instead of giving direct orders try to ask questions to that person  like"can you please get me a glass of water?" it increases the chances of getting done of the work by that person.

 
14) if you want to improve someone then try to act as that person is excellent in a particular work, the rest he will do it by himself. Very little hearty comments will change someone's life.

15) if someone has done a mistake then instead of exploding on him try to make the fault seems easy to correct, praise that person and help him to minimise the error, let the person know that you have faith in his ability.

16) always make the other person happy to do the things you suggest, the work you gave to him, try to make it like a game, the person will do it very fault and in a proper way.

So, this is the complete book summary of the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie,i hope you like the summary, if you find and mistake in the blog then please comment down below. 

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